if it happens to me

If I Get Dementia

1. If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality. If I think my spouse is still alive, or if I think we’re visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. I’ll be much happier for it.
2. If I get dementia, I don’t want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am. 
3.  If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that I’ve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends. 
4.  If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past. 
5.  If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me. 
6.  If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated. 
7.  If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I don’t eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need. 
8.  If I get dementia, don’t talk about me as if I’m not in the room. 
9.  If I get dementia, don’t feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It’s not your fault, and you’ve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live. 
10.  If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often. 
11.  If I get dementia, don’t act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. It’s not my fault. 
12.  If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot. 
13.  If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original places. 
14.  If I get dementia, don't exclude me from parties and family gatherings. 
15.  If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs or handshakes. 
16.  If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.
17. by racheal wonderlin in alzheimers reading room