this is so sad
a young teenage girl took her own life in the bathroom of the
school in the community where i practiced
its so sad
this loss of this young life
why
were there signs
did the system miss something
did her friends miss something
in a teenagers life there are so many things that can affect them
some of them to us seem not important
sometimes its a cumulative effect of a lot of small things
hope that the system can learn something from this tragedy that
could prevent this from happening again
just hope it was not from bullying
with so much social networking and demands on kids bullying is
much easier than in the past
in my dealings with teenagers it is hard to get them to communicate
with you sometimes
it was easier if i had a long time patient relationship with them
the mental health system in the united states is not very good
especially for those who are not financially able to seek care
even with insurance it is expensive
many providers dont accept insurance also
poor system we have
parents hug your kids
talk with them and listen to them
know their friends
monitor their computers, cell phones and social network sites
seek help early if needed
our thoughts and condolences to her family
its so sad
GARDEN STUFF
now to less important stuff
its dry here where we live
there is no rain in sight
its windy
that dries the heck out of plants
keep them watered regularly
drip irrigation works the best
water in am if using a sprinkler system
wet leaves in the sun will burn the leaves
use mulch-i use pine straw
it lets in moisture but shades the ground if used loosely
watch for bugs
use lady bugs in your garden
can get them at most garden centers
watch for caterpillars but dont kill the good ones that turn into
butterflies like these
use bt for the caterpillars (bad ones only please)
have trouble with pill bugs in my garden as i have a lot of
mulch and organic material in my garden
they eat my new seedlings as they come out of the ground
i use a dusting of de-diatomaceous earth- as the seedlings
emerge from the ground
if things got nipped with the cold, just died, or got eaten
replant now as there is till time to get things growing
the organicgreen doctor
We didnt know the young lady but we did go to her prayer vigil at the school. We went to pray for her friends and family. I also wanted my kids to see the great lasting impact this has on those who are left behind. It is a permanent solution to a temporary issue..... but sometimes they just cant see past the moment. God bless the teachers, friends, family and Emergency Workers who responded.
ReplyDeleteMy son who has Aspergers and depression heard the news. It effected him deeply. It made his own depression much more raw, real and vivid. He has a feeling he may have known her. He has made suicidal statements in the past. He says he doesn't really want to hurt himself, he's just so tired of the pain. He's on several medications but with all of the hormonal changes, they don't seem to be working so well anymore. It's a scary painful world that we live in. I have him in therapy and social skills, and we watch him closely.
ReplyDeleteHe has some support at school. I just wish the schools could do something to make these kids feel more included.
I can't imagine the hole that must be in the hearts of the girls family. Such a tragedy. I pray that if my children ever have a friend who is hurting, they are able to reach out and be a grounding force. Teenage years are so painful and it's hard to see that they are just temporary.
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